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PeekaBOOK Review: How To Respect Myself by Yoo Hong Gyun (Worksheet provided)

Updated: Sep 12, 2022

What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is a person's general personal perception of their worth or value. It has to do with how we view and value ourselves. To put it another way, one way to define self-esteem is to think of it as how much you value and like yourself, no matter what the circumstances are. It is based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can occasionally seem very challenging to alter.

How to deal with low self-esteem using 4 amazing pieces from the book How To Respect Myself by Yoo Hong Gyun

Have you struggled with self-doubt? Feeling unsupported and comparing oneself with others? Do not worry, thankfully there is a book that can assist you in handling these issues credit by Yoo Hong Gyun the author who's also a psychiatrist from South Korea.

The book's title How To Respect Myself, emphasizes the Self-Training Method for Self-Esteem from the perspective of a Psychiatrist (the author). It also guides you on how to deal with self-esteem misconceptions and prejudices and encourages you to understand the importance of self-confidence in your life.

The author Yoo Hong Gyun previously used his blog and email to communicate with the public and his patients, but later decided to publish a book after he worked at a hospital in Gyeonggi and became more concerned with self-esteem issues. He observed that today's youth tend to be overconfident and quite narcissistic, however, this tendency is a result of low self-esteem and a fear of embarrassing themselves. Here are 4 amazing pieces from the book on how to build stronger self-esteem:

1. Why self-esteem is crucial?

Another term that is frequently used interchangeably with self-esteem is self-efficiency. Do you know that having a purpose in life and being valuable to the community can bring joy to oneself? Study shows that if we have a respectable job or our abilities are recognized at work we will feel valued.

The factors that influence our self-esteem differ from person to person. Some people can feel self-sufficient by setting a good example and earning others' respect. But for some people, having a purpose in a community doesn't make them feel better about themselves.

One thing I've noticed is that this book is essential for a leader dealing with self-esteem to read and use the exercises in this book, mainly because life events, which can be challenging or stressful, frequently play a role in this issue. When you have low self-esteem, it can be difficult to identify your feelings and make changes. That is why it is critical for an individual to find a sense of self-worth in the community and for themselves.

2. What self-control may entail

Self-control is the ability to control and modify your reactions. People with this ability appear to have the courage to follow their passions, and they accomplish this by exercising restraint and refusing to let obstacles from outside their control get in the way of their objectives. According to studies, having one's dreams come true increases one's self-esteem.

Self-control allows people to respect themselves more, regardless of their accomplishments. Leaders, please remember that you have no control over others, but you do have control over yourself. You can try to practice more self-control and emotional discipline. Finding inner peace allows you to have fewer worries, anxieties, stressors, and fears. These actions may improve one's self-esteem.

Remember that no matter what has affected your self-esteem, you have the right to feel good about yourself. It may appear that changing things will be difficult, but there are various methods you can use to progressively improve things.

3. How you and other people can affect self-esteem

Do you avoid interacting with others? Especially in difficult situations, this means no confrontations at all. You must interact with other people in life, and even more so if you are a team leader. Spending too much time alone can leave you feeling isolated and disconnected, so making an effort to socialize is critical. Spending quality time with friends or loved ones can lift one's spirits and boost one's self-esteem.

How big is your love for yourself to be able to not be influenced by anything other people do

Low self-esteem has the potential to lead to a variety of mental health issues, so in order to improve, you must be aware of your flaws. Get yourself a better friend that will not indicate you to doubt yourself or compare your life to others.

One of the best ways to develop a strong sense of self-worth is to have a strong support system. It can help motivate you to achieve your goals because you can go through life knowing that you are capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to. But keep in mind that self-esteem comes from within, not from outside validation or recognition.

4. How to respect yourself?

Emotions can have a significant impact on both thoughts and actions. Emotions are a part of who we are as humans, and we can manage or control them by being self-aware. Your daily emotions can motivate you to take action and influence the decisions you make in life. For instance, leaders shouldn't be afraid to be a little stern with their employees in order to gain their respect when necessary.

But there's another option in which the author suggests that we could write down our emotions in order to identify their current state. This will allow a person to express their feelings without being verbal or taking any actions that they might regret later. When self-esteem-driven emotions are present, decisions will be made more wisely.

Keep in mind that self-recovery takes time. You can't anticipate getting better in just one day. Learning to love oneself, takes time and effort.

Worksheet (Downloadable)

I'm quite sure that after finishing this book, you will have a new perspective on life and will begin to love yourself exactly as you are. Soon you will have less fear of making decisions and being swayed by the ideas or judgments of others, and you will be more confident in yourself.

The book also includes practice self-esteem exercises. Based on our understanding, we created this worksheet from the book. Click here to download:

Selfesteem - Work Sheet
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